The "Always" and "Never" Trap
I 've been thinking a lot lately, and I wanna share something that my bestie, Corena, totally called me out on. You know how it is sometimes—you get on a rant, right? We were using this app called Marco Polo, which is kind of like a video walkie-talkie. You record a video and send it to your friend, they watch it when they have a chance, and then they can reply with their own video. It's awesome for staying connected with friends who live far away. Anyway, I was venting about some stuff, and I didn't want advice—I just needed to get it all out. But my wise bestie just asked me to replay the video to myself. So I did, and I heard something I didn't even realize I was doing. The Danger of Absolutes In a five-minute rant, I kept saying two words over and over: "never" and "always." I was so sure of myself, so convinced I was right, that I was making these huge, absolute statements. I was drawing lines in the sand, like, "I'm never going to d...